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Lessons Learned (like hell they are)

I am currently on Page 22 of the report by Professor Alexis Jay of the Independent Inquiry into Child Sexual Exploitation in Rotherham (1997 – 2013). So far I have read about failing, after failing after failing and saw that famous phrase “Lessons Learned”. I want to scream when I hear that utter from some politician’s mouth as it’s a cover all phrase that is meant to satisfy us the public that everything is in hand and all will be resolved.
Of course we all know it’s just another load of bullshit in an attempt to calm the masses.

You can download a copy of the report from here

I have also read the emotive blog from Lisa Cherry this morning.


I feel for Lisa and for all those children and future children who’ve not been heard, been deliberately ignore and believe it’s their own fault.

I spent a few years back in the late 90’s and early 2000’s attempting to help (mostly women) put themselves back together after years and years of being sexually abused, ignored, unseen, unheard and re-abused by so-called rescuers. I am sure I am feeling tearful for them too. Every time this type of story surfaces (weekly and almost daily now), it can be a trigger for those who’ve suffered at the hands of an abuser. Many of my previous clients will be struggling to cope with what they see, read and hear at the moment, and I fear this only the tip of the iceberg.

I doubt very much that much will change, I have every confidence that lessons haven’t been and won’t be learned and vulnerable children will continue to be left uncared for and unprotected by “caring” services.

Is this our blindness….as much of the US is blind to the damage their gun culture causes, are we in the UK blind to the damage being caused by our society and it’s attitude’s to vulnerable children.


ACoAs & Emotions (Part 1) (via HEAL & GROW for ACoAs)

So eloquently written and resonated so much for me.

ACoAs & Emotions (Part 1) I DON’T WANT TO FEEL ANYTHING – & you can’t make me! Previous: Parrott’s Emotions List You know the 3 Laws of an alcoholic system, right?  “Don’t Talk, Don’t Think, Don’t Feel”  & the ‘greatest’ of them is – the last one! Those Dreaded Es! • ACoAs definitely believe emotions are a bad thing. When asked what’s going on with them, or how they’re feeling, ACoAs usually fail to mention their emotions. We’ll talk around them, over & under, … Read More

via HEAL & GROW for ACoAs