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Lessons Learned (like hell they are)

I am currently on Page 22 of the report by Professor Alexis Jay of the Independent Inquiry into Child Sexual Exploitation in Rotherham (1997 – 2013). So far I have read about failing, after failing after failing and saw that famous phrase “Lessons Learned”. I want to scream when I hear that utter from some politician’s mouth as it’s a cover all phrase that is meant to satisfy us the public that everything is in hand and all will be resolved.
Of course we all know it’s just another load of bullshit in an attempt to calm the masses.

You can download a copy of the report from here

I have also read the emotive blog from Lisa Cherry this morning.


I feel for Lisa and for all those children and future children who’ve not been heard, been deliberately ignore and believe it’s their own fault.

I spent a few years back in the late 90’s and early 2000’s attempting to help (mostly women) put themselves back together after years and years of being sexually abused, ignored, unseen, unheard and re-abused by so-called rescuers. I am sure I am feeling tearful for them too. Every time this type of story surfaces (weekly and almost daily now), it can be a trigger for those who’ve suffered at the hands of an abuser. Many of my previous clients will be struggling to cope with what they see, read and hear at the moment, and I fear this only the tip of the iceberg.

I doubt very much that much will change, I have every confidence that lessons haven’t been and won’t be learned and vulnerable children will continue to be left uncared for and unprotected by “caring” services.

Is this our blindness….as much of the US is blind to the damage their gun culture causes, are we in the UK blind to the damage being caused by our society and it’s attitude’s to vulnerable children.


Amazon making false claims about my honesty!

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I am fuming and don’t really know what to do next.

Over the last few weeks I have been following the journey to book launch of an author I admire called Lisa Cherry who has written a book called The Brightness of Stars. (normally I would have put in an Amazon link but that doesn’t actually feel right).
Her book, about her journey, and that of other children who were brought up in the care system in the UK, comes at time when “cared for children” are quite high profile in the press.

During the lead up to the book launch, Lisa held a competition, and I was lucky enough to win a copy of the book. Having read the book, I wrote a review on Amazon. The review didn’t appear (and I sorely regretted not writing it and saving it to Word), so after 48hrs I wrote another. Guess what (still not copied in Word), this too wasn’t published. So, I went to Help on Amazon, explained what had happened and here is the reply I received earlier today.

Your Account

Message From Customer Service

Hello Kathy,

We’ve removed your review from “The Brightness of Stars: Stories of Adults Who Came Through The British Care.”

Reviews are meant to give customers genuine product feedback from fellow customers. When we perceive that a reviewer has financial interest in a book or a close personal relationship with the author, we remove the review to protect the authenticity of our customer reviews.

If you have additional questions, please consult our Customer Review Guidelines:

If, after reviewing our guidelines, you believe your review was incorrectly removed, please reply to this email with additional detail and we will take another look.

We hope to see you again soon.

Warmest regards,
Frank Lohe-Baartzes

I was astonished, and pretty angry, as i have no connection with Lisa other than following her on her Facebook page, reading and commenting on her book and following her on Twitter.
So, I respond to the email with,


I only know of the author virtually, and only as someone’s who’s views I agree with and who’s work closely connects to my previous work as a mental health nurse and psychotherapist. . I don’t understand where in my review it suggests I have a close personal relationship with the author and I certainly have no financial interest in the book. I am astounded and angry.
Please explain?

Kathy Gower.

This is the reply,

Hello Kathy,

This is Bryce from Amazon Communities.

Thank you for taking the time to contact us.

I understand you’re upset and I regret that we haven’t been able to address your concerns to your satisfaction.
However, we won’t be able to provide further insight or assistance for your request.

Warmest regards,

Bryce C
Your feedback is helping us build Earth’s Most Customer-Centric Company.

So, still no review, and no acknowledgement that they are making untrue accusations about my honesty.

My reply below,

I’m sorry Bryce, that’s not good enough.
I shall have to take this further as you have accused me of dishonesty and of lying and having a financial interest in a book I have no connection with.

Kathy Gower.

So what do I do now. I feel so angry that they have not checked out the proof of their accusations. I feel angry on behalf of the author who feels passionate about her subject and really connects with her audience.

Anyhow, I feel a little less angry for writing it here. I hope that someone, somewhere will come up with a plan so I can leave a review for a book I feel is really important for the care world. Off to GOODREADS where hopefully my review (which I’ll have to write again (this time in Word) for a 3rd time. It will lack the passion and spontaneity but the book deserves reviewing.

And you wonder why I keep the gate closed!

a plus

As an after thought, I am now deleting my reviews from Amazon.
They say,
“Your feedback is helping us build Earth’s Most Customer-Centric Company.” at the end of their email. Well, I don’t think so Amazon.