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This is such good info, especially for those of you currently with a young baby. It makes me want to go back and do it again and get it right.

HEAL & GROW for ACoAs

mom-child bond 

I GET ALL MY NEEDS MET
& I don‘t have to do anything!

PREVIOUS: Bs – Healthy Source (Part 1)

REMINDER: See ACRONYM page for abbrev.


1. NORMAL DEVELOPMENT (cont.)
While going thru the Developmental Process, children look to their parents to be the source of all PMES provisions:
— Parents are ‘gods’, all-powerful, all-knowing, all-providing, & baby has direct access, without having to earn it
— small children have strong & erratic emotions.  When the mother is not emotionally fragile, their adoration, clinging, neediness, tantrums, withdrawals, rages…. will not injure or topple ‘god’ – ie. Love is NOT conditional on the child’s behavior or reactions towards the parent. When her love is unfailing, the universe is safe!

John Bradshaw stated: Before the age of 7 children ‘deify their parents, & after 7 they parentalize their Deity’. This means that how we experience a…

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About kathythesane

Lived in Kent, then Devon, now France. Trained as a Mental Health Nurse in Canterbury, then at Training South East (Sandhurst) in Transactional Analysis with Alice Stephenson (dec'd) , Suzanne Boyd and Mellie Lewin. Managed a Private Psychiatric Nursing Home for very mentally ill patients in Devon for 3 year before retiring to France in 2006.

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