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About connection and about shootings.

ATTENTION ALL TEACHERS AND PARENTS

This is an article that needs to be repeated:
Every Friday afternoon Chase’s teacher asks her students to take out a piece of paper and write down the names of four children with whom they’d like to sit the following week. The children know that these requests may or may not be honored. She also asks the students to nominate one student whom they believe has been an exceptional classroom citizen that week. All ballots are privately submitted to her.

And every single Friday afternoon, after the students go home, Chase’s teacher takes out those slips of paper, places them in front of her and studies them. She looks for patterns.

Who is not getting requested by anyone else?
Who doesn’t even know who to request?
Who never gets noticed enough to be nominated?
Who had a million friends last week and none this week?

You see, Chase’s teacher is not looking for a new seating chart or “exceptional citizens.” Chase’s teacher is looking for lonely children. She’s looking for children who are struggling to connect with other children. She’s identifying the little ones who are falling through the cracks of the class’s social life. She is discovering whose gifts are going unnoticed by their peers. And she’s pinning down- right away- who’s being bullied and who is doing the bullying.

As a teacher, parent, and lover of all children – I think that this is the most brilliant Love Ninja strategy I have ever encountered. It’s like taking an X-ray of a classroom to see beneath the surface of things and into the hearts of students. It is like mining for gold – the gold being those little ones who need a little help – who need adults to step in and TEACH them how to make friends, how to ask others to play, how to join a group, or how to share their gifts with others. And it’s a bully deterrent because every teacher knows that bullying usually happens outside of her eyeshot – and that often kids being bullied are too intimidated to share. But as she said – the truth comes out on those safe, private, little sheets of paper.

As Chase’s teacher explained this simple, ingenious idea – I stared at her with my mouth hanging open. “How long have you been using this system?” I said.
Ever since Columbine, she said. Every single Friday afternoon since Columbine.

Good Lord.

This brilliant woman watched Columbine knowing that ALL VIOLENCE BEGINS WITH DISCONNECTION. All outward violence begins as inner loneliness. She watched that tragedy KNOWING that children who aren’t being noticed will eventually resort to being noticed by any means necessary.

And so she decided to start fighting violence early and often, and with the world within her reach. What Chase’s teacher is doing when she sits in her empty classroom studying those lists written with shaky 11 year old hands – is SAVING LIVES. I am convinced of it. She is saving lives.

And what this mathematician has learned while using this system is something she really already knew: that everything – even love, even belonging – has a pattern to it. And she finds those patterns through those lists – she breaks the codes of disconnection. And then she gets lonely kids the help they need. It’s math to her. It’s MATH.

All is love- even math. Amazing.

Chase’s teacher retires this year – after decades of saving lives. What a way to spend a life: looking for patterns of love and loneliness. Stepping in, every single day- and altering the trajectory of our world.

TEACH ON, WARRIORS. You are the first responders, the front line, the disconnection detectives, and the best and ONLY hope we’ve got for a better world. What you do in those classrooms when no one is watching- it’s our best hope. http://momastery.com/blog/2014/01/30/share-schools/

 

More about guns in US.

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Getting shot
– at work
– at school
– at the movies
Isn’t something people in other developed countries worry about.

and finally

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jFcUOwnfAsE

A map for pre-menopausal moon howling.

Lots of lovely information in this blog about menopause and peri-menopause.  Thank you.

Source: A map for pre-menopausal moon howling.

More Menopause! sheesh

There Won’t Be Blood: Suzanne Moore on the menopause

 

The lack of information around the menopause is one of the things that has shocked me most. It is a mystery to many well-informed women. The perimenopause, for instance, is an all-purpose diagnosis for all kinds of ills. Many women are told they are “peri” with no idea what this means. Erratic bleeding, insomnia, itching, vaginal dryness, memory lapse and vasomotor disturbance are just a few of the symptoms that could make you “peri”. You are post-menopausal when you haven’t had a period for over a year.

The lack of definition bothered me. The female body can be a mess, so I simply decided to have it – the menopause – one cold November weekend a few years ago. I took to my bed, decided that my time was over and nested in a cloud of self-pity. By the Monday I was bored and went out and saw a great gig. These are a good menopausal activity, as they occur in dark spaces and no one cares if you perspire.

But I am not surprised so many women end up utterly depressed. If the menopause is seen as basically a disease, as lack, then women’s bodily chemistry must be rebalanced with hormone replacement therapy or antidepressants.

When you shut the gate could you waft it back and forth to create a draft please.

Menopause & Smell distortion

In 2013 I wrote a blog about the issues I was having with my sense of smell during menopause.  I discovered after a quick but short trawl of the internet that it is not uncommon and has a name.  It’s called Dysosmia and some weeks after discovering it, it began to dissipate.

Previous menopause blog

Partly I’d hoped and suspected down to my new role as a Consultant for Neal’s Yard Remedies Organic and my consequent use of essential oils.  I had bought a lovely Zen Soto diffuser and had found that diffusing essential oils was very helpful.

My menopause symptoms began to subside and for a period of several months I thought it was over.  Late last year I was back to hot flushes and this time sought help from my doctor.  I don’t/won’t use HRT so was seeking an alternative.  I’d tried several different supplements which had helped initially and now were not working.  My doctor prescribe Abufene

Médicament Abufene 400 mg

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I am not sure if this available in the UK.  I have just recently been on my 2nd outing with it (you only take the tablets for 10 days and then stop).  I understand it is an Amino Acid and is often prescribed for sports people.  It certainly works for the hot flushes. There is a side effect that is mention.  You get a hot sort of tingling in your hands and feet, or just feet.  I get this regular as clockwork at 10pm each evening.  I know from my previous course that this side effect will last many weeks after you stop taking the medication.  I don’t mind and in winter it’s quite comforting.

Anyhow, back to the smell.  It’s back in a different form now.  I cannot describe it but once it arrives in my nasal passages it is hard to shift.  It really spoilt my lunchtime meal out as of course smell and taste are interlinked, so my plate of fish didn’t smell or taste much of fish.

Back home and I am now diffusing essential oils to try and fill my nasal passages with something more pleasant.  I have a new diffuser and have added some Patchouli and Ylang Ylang.

Aria Diffuser

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I don’t normally diffuse such strong floral smells but hope these will be potent enough to do the trick.

I am really blogging about this once more as there is so little on the internet about it and I know for some women their distorted smell is distressing for them and causing low self esteem.  Somehow knowing about it and understanding it helps in the management of it.   I am disappointed that after 2 and a half years I am still dealing with this and am heartened to know  that it will disappear eventually and give me a break.

Aromatherapy products

 

 

 

Sandra Gives The Game Away: Jobcentres Given Sheriff’s Stars For Hitting Benefit Sanction Targets

kathythesane:

I cannot help but wonder at how UK Gov and some UK media are teaching a whole culture to dehumanise anyone who needs help and support. Any reason to kick them into the gutter is now rewarded.

Originally posted on the void:

sanction-sheriffSandra Lambert, manager of 149 Jobcentres and self-styled lifestyle guru, has spent much of the last few days frantically blocking people on twitter who have been taking the piss out of the cringemaking motivational advice she inflicts on the poor bastards who work for her.

She wasn’t fast enough however to hide the tweet in which she awarded a Texas style sherriff’s badge to Jobcentres in the midlands for upholding their DMA decision rate – as spotted by @refuted.  A DMA means a referral to a Jobcentre ‘decision maker’ to process a benefit sanction.  It is the second time this month a DWP manager has been exposed praising their staff for hitting benefit sanction targets – targets that Iain Duncan Smith’s department have repeatedly claimed do not exist.

It is not just that the DWP are lying which is so contempible, all government departments lie after all.  It…

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DWP Hires Miracle Lifestyle Guru Who Claims 95% Success Rate In Curing Mental Health Conditions!

kathythesane:

Life for those already struggling could just get even more fucked up and fucked over. Life style guru my arse!

Originally posted on the void:

definition-isanityFears that the psychological treatments to be introduced in Jobcentres will amount to little more than unscientific quackery look well founded with the appointment of a so-called stress and anxiety management company to provide service for claimants with a mental health condition.

Earlier in the month ITV reported that a company called Start Smiling Again would soon be working across several Jobcentres in South Wales.  According to Minister for Murdering Disabled People, Justin Tomlinson, this is part of a package of support that shows that supporting people with a mental health condition is a priority for the current Government.

Start Smiling Again are run by David Rahman, who calls himself a Coach & Blueprint Therapist.  It is unclear whether anyone else is currently involved in the company as their website contains no company information, landline phone number or address.  Instead potential customers are invited to call Dave on his mobile. …

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Amazon making false claims about my honesty!

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Originally posted on musings from outside the asylum:

I am fuming and don’t really know what to do next.

Over the last few weeks I have been following the journey to book launch of an author I admire called Lisa Cherry who has written a book called The Brightness of Stars. (normally I would have put in an Amazon link but that doesn’t actually feel right).
Her book, about her journey, and that of other children who were brought up in the care system in the UK, comes at time when “cared for children” are quite high profile in the press.

During the lead up to the book launch, Lisa held a competition, and I was lucky enough to win a copy of the book. Having read the book, I wrote a review on Amazon. The review didn’t appear (and I sorely regretted not writing it and saving it to Word), so after 48hrs I wrote another. Guess…

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